I had a conversation with a vanilla friend earlier. Really, she's about as vanilla as they get. I've given her a few hints about my kink, but haven't had the full conversation. I don't think she'll be shocked when I do tell her, but I also don't think she's ever really considered that someone she knows enjoys the things that I enjoy...or looks for the kind of relationships that I seek. Anyway, she commented about someone she met that he was 29, and therefore too young for her...she's a few years younger than I am. I commented that I totally disagreed, and fully believe in the law of half your age plus 7. She came back that she really only considered her age plus 10 years, as she likes older men. I returned that I also like older men, and still consider younger men (within the rule)...and then the conversation turned to other topics. But it got me thinking about age.
I like older men. Always have. When I was 22, I was with a man twice my age. More recently, I've been with men whose children I was closer in age to than he was. Looking at every man I've been with, in any way, since my first kiss at age 10, actually...I think there are maybe 5 guys that were younger than I was. And I wonder why that is.
I mean, I sometimes joke that I have the sex drive of a teenaged boy. I know that I'm at or near my prime, and that men reach their peak at a younger age. Maybe I should be thinking about someone younger...I mean, I've been with guys who are at the age where Viagra becomes commonplace. And that doesn't bother me...but, then again, I often want more than they do. Logically, I should be thinking about younger men.
I suppose part of it is the whole sub thing...I look to older men because perhaps they can give me more guidance, perhaps. But I think I'm also just attracted to them. In some ways, I think a younger guy could be fun...but could I submit to them for long? True submission is hard enough for me (as in truly letting go with my mind, fully)...maybe I'm reticent to fully trust someone who is younger. Or maybe I like the idea of someone with more life experience than I have.
Or maybe it's something entirely different. Maybe it's just that I like older men. I'm not sure.
But it's on my mind at the moment...so I figured I'd offer it up here. What do you all think about age? Is there something to be said for someone older? Someone younger?
